After having started this process, with much apprehension I must say, I can say now that I am sorta pleased I finally took the time to do this. Believe it or not, it’s a liberating and insightful experience. Until we make the time to sit down and think about what is truly important to you, what it is you want to tell others about, what you value, what you wish for others, etc. I don’t think we truly know for ourselves. And for good reason. It’s not something we think about every day, at least not holistically. Yes, I think we each think about these sorts of things at various times and in varying degrees throughout our lives, depending on what’s happening. When friends or family are ill, we think about some of these things. When we are faced with difficult life circumstances we think about these things. But it’s done so in more of a “… I need to get to that at some time…” or “… I really should do this, or let someone know that…”. It’s mostly about the specific thing, and not holistically thinking about what if I weren’t here any longer. What would others know about wants, dreams, wishes, etc. Would those close to me know what I value in this world, what I believe in, what I wish for them, what I remember and cherish most about them, what makes me smile, what hurts me, what makes me angry, what makes me cry, what I hope and dream about doing, what’s on my “bucket list”…. You get the idea.
Have you ever taken the time to think about these all at the same time, and in that type of context? Probably not. I know I hadn’t. I’ve thought about most of them in a one-off singular fashion at various times throughout my life. But seeing what other friends around us are facing, and with a fairly major surgery of my own soon about to happen, this bubbled up to the top of my to-do list. And let me say this. I am grateful that it has, even though it was difficult to get going.
I think everybody should do one. Neither of us are guaranteed a future, so if you wish to leave your family, friends and loved ones a living legacy, if you will, I would encourage you to do so. What’s stopping you? Trust me, you’ll be glad you did. It really helps you hone in on what’s most important to you. And there is tremendous value in doing that, not just for those around you if you are gone, but for yourself while you are here now! Facing a looming and fairly significant surgery myself, this process has helped me see that some of the things I thought were important to me, really aren’t, and it’s helped me see what I really want to focus on when I recover. And that’s priceless.
Until next time… enjoy life!